So this has been quite helpful for our family lately. I read it in a devotional from by Greg Laurie
"Before you speak, THINK. Is what I'm about to say..."
True
Helpful
Inspiring
Necessary
Kind
Now you might say...of course! that's all common sense.
I don't lie. That's one thing I don't do......But how often have I maybe lowered the price I paid for that dress by "just the taxes" so it's not as bad when I tell my hubby.
OR... said "GOOD!' when asked "how are you today?" When the truth is "I am barely hanging on!"
But not just "true" my friend...It must be coupled with "HELPFUL" Lots of things are true, but not always helpful..."you just went over your calorie count for the day!"
I can count....thank you.
Then my biggest struggle...Inspiring. It's one thing to correct my children's behavior or share a struggle I see in my spouse. But it's key to inspire then to go beyond what is the now. To what God wants to be. The difference between dictating people and developing strength and character. One way just insults or criticizes but the other encourages and solidifies that I am "for" them and support them.
Which brings us humbly to Necessary. Why we think it's imperative we are heard on every flaw,I don't know! Lord help us!
It's possible it depends on the person at hand. Is what I'm saying needed for them to grow? Or am I seeking to make life easier just for me? "possible."~ I'm laying down nothing definite. I can tell ou I looked up the definition: being essential, indispensable, or requisite
And Kind....kindness matters. The Word says it's His kindness that leads to repentance. A gentle answer can can turn away wrath. That it can build a safe harbor for the wounded. Nothing troubles me more than to think I might not seem like a sincere, safe place to go when everything in their world is wrong.
Oh what Grace, which covers a multitude of sin. Thank you Lord that it is Your goodness that holds me to you, not mine!