Dead Man Walking

All Things New

2010-11-08T09:02:00.000-08:00

It was time for us to begin a new phase: Christian school! It is funny. Homeschool was a sacrifice, letting go was a sacrifice. They are ready and so excited. This was made possible at the best time with the best school, with the best love for all. I am watching the greatness of God's unfailing love unfold for all of us. Thank you all for the support you have given us. Truly we have been blessed with a wonderful family. Please pray for me should I get put on your heart. I miss them. But I know they are going to get an education and experience of a life time. Here are some shots of their first day a Joshua Springs Christian School. (they go to church with these kids too, so they are super excited to know mostly everyone.) E stays with me until next year PTL! We painted together this morning. He wanted to mix all the colors. Funny thing happens when you have a new appreciation for what's yours and what really matters.....we mixed every single one!

So ready!

So silly

So cute!

they are a wall...no emotion. Solid rock!

Can't fool me, BUSTED!

I miss them so much...it's only been 2 hours.

My feelings can best be expressed by a song by JJ Heller......

When the future seems uncertain; like the calming of a storm...

your loving Father carries his children when they can't walk any more.

No matter how the wind may blow, it can not shake the Sun!

Motivators!

2010-09-02T23:13:00.000-07:00

ok. this is for the mom's looking to have some new approaches to positive motivation. I borrowed the main idea from a teacher in NC. The kids are all little frogs on the land. Should they follow all the class rules and stay on the land during school time, they will receive 2 blessings. This can be sweet treats, but for us they get to go to PBS kids and pick their very own video or game to play. If they break a school rule, they move to the first of 3 lilly pads, taking them down to only 1 blessing. They get these 3 total pads before they fall in the water. We try to talk the problem area out and remind right behavior and sometimes pray in hopes to help keep that blessing. It can make all the difference to know I am routing for them. Once they are in the water, each offense is noted and is a chore they must do for mom after quiet time and before supper. Big plus is if you stay on the land all week, you get to pick out a toy from the dollar store. My boys really want the random fake body parts, fingers, feet, teeth. Not to forget the fake ketchup spill and whoopee cushion. I have a friend that hands out marbles for good behavior or enduring a tough work assignment, then they tally the marbles up for a reward later. I enjoy that too so I'm gonna try to work tat in my little pond! Maybe the frogs get a fly (jelly bean) for trying hard and sticking with it! Basically good characer traits we can teach and when I see them try I can reinforce it. My kids love this system so much I used it at the grocery store the other day too! I hope this helps any moms out there. I already know most of you are great at this, but I was missing some balance here! would love to hear any other suggestions. Firmly believe in growing from good to better and hopefully best!

The New School Year Begins

2010-08-25T12:45:00.001-07:00

And now..... the Reveal

2010-08-21T13:43:00.000-07:00

And here we have our Little princess. She is set on starting ballet in September. Her first recital will be December 11th. So fun! There was a small dispute about tights, but once she found out it wasn't optional...she's gonna roll with the punches and wear them :)

Next great memory was getting her ears pierced. We started the morning off at a local bakery called the Jelly Doughnut. I was wearing a blue shirt until she said..."oh, I thought you might wear your pink shirt with the flower in front so we could match." Thrilled mom ran to the bedroom and came out pretty in pink in less than 30 seconds! I loved this day!YUM!
And then we killed ourselves......

On to the main event! She picked out little gold earrings with Minnie Mouse wearing a pink bow. They had planned to go at the same time. A perfect strategy. I couldn't have asked for a kinder ladies to be apart of this. And we were at Walmart: so that is saying something!I think they enjoyed it as much as we did!She was said to be the first child they ever had to not cry or scream . She did so great! And hoped every one could tell she had her ears pierced everywhere else we went. I wish this was a better shot of them. Theyare perfect. They lay flat and sparkle gold and pink too.

Precious moments... Absolutely precious to me.

enjoy :)

2010-08-16T14:46:00.000-07:00

She has really blossomed in phonics!

And now a reader!

What!

the nino's

that's my boy!

I caught him totally jamming out to his music video! LOVE BOYS!

ok. I made something new! It's called Turkey and Phyllo Pie. so yummy, it's like your eating a huge crescent role! it came out just like the picture! See! the other day i came down the hallway to find #4 in a time out

just like this...

I couldn't keep a straight face either!

On to our little ballerina girl....

We lost one of the slipper Aunt Jacqui got her, but she refused to take photos with out it! Don't worry, we finally just bought her real ballet slippers. She even went so far as to pick out the "perfect" color of pink ribbon for her hair. She is going to try it all on together tonight for the big reveal. LOVE GIRLS!

to be continued......

just thoughts

2010-06-25T08:20:00.000-07:00

So we have been back in the swing of things. J is working a lot again. And I have come to realize; it's been 4 years since we, ok I, have been "single mom" mode. You can give it as many excuses as you want....new town, new church, now we're schooling with 4, plus schooling over the summer because we took 2 months of to move... But when 5:30 comes around I am out of steam. the kids don't get to bed on time and I am too tired to take some time alone after they do go down. the kids are snipping at each other. the only one that seems to have a gentle spirit is J when he is home. it's like total reverse. Last Sunday he went to church with us in the morning, then back to work till 7, then back home in time for a movie on the football field at our church. We were a mess and he was the one smoothing all our nerves so we could enjoy the evening! I could see it on his face,"have I entered the Twilight Zone!"
Then it comes to a head. Yesterday we had a bible time and scriptures. Well, remember how you don't move on to a new daily verse until everyone can say it? (You say a weekly and a monthly too so you're not just bored with one every morning) Anywho- Little E was only missing one word in Colossians 3:12. we started that one in TX. He could say, " Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness humility, .........., and patience." So we all say it together then we would give him a chance to say it by himself at his request and no matter how many visuals we gave, he couldn't get it. We would all sit on the edge of our seats, as it has become a real team effort at this point. Even mommy was ready to move on for sanity's sake. we have never lost patience with him because it's just so cute hearing him try and we all giggle when he says it so boldly and big eyed. Well... Yesterday he got it! All that was missing was "gentleness" He said the whole thing. And we all rejoiced when he said...kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience." I thought FINALLY! he got it! He finally remembered GENTLENESS! .................have you ever heard the Lord cough under his breathe? You know; clear his throat and nudge your side. Well I did. He was letting me know ever so gently, that was my problem. I was lacking gentleness in all matters. Now this is not something I can manufacture. This is a real need for Him to fill. What was my verse to pray for today? I'm glad you asked. John 15:16 it's Jesus talking about whatever you need ask in his name and He will gladly give it to you so you can bear spiritual fruit that will last!
Ha ha. I don't even think I asked for it gently. I was like a desperate woman at the end of her rope!
Do I believe He is going to begin this transformation?
Absolutely.
Is it gonna include a lot of work and surrender on my part?
Absolutely.
Will it be worth it at the end of it all?
Absolutely.

I leave you with this incredible verse Psalm 145:18

"It's Friday! Field-trip Day"

2010-06-03T09:58:00.000-07:00

OK Here are the pics from Joshua Tree National Park. Some from our field trip, others from a day with daddy. It is so wonderful to have this park 10 minutes away! I was worried about having nature walks we would really enjoy. Not anymore! They could climb all day! God is Good!

Announcing our first Junior Ranger in the Martinez Family! You have to fill out a guide book and go on a guided tour and then pledge to take care of the park to the best of her ability. Very Serious stuff. Then she had a little fun and added a few perks for mom. Like Always obey my parents, get along with my brothers, always finish my schoolwork.... She is so excited she wears her badge even on her pj's! So proud of our Junior Ranger!

From the mouths of babes

2010-05-28T08:33:00.000-07:00

OK. we were just getting ready for the day and #4 asks me to tie his shoes.

it's field trip day so we're all excited.

as I'm helping him he says,"mom, do you know another way to say I love you?"

I'm guessing he's going to sign it to me with his fingers, but to my surprise he says...

"Grace."

Now I dig deeper, "who taught you that?"

"Jesus"

Enough said.

Go tell somebody you love them!

Our New Home

2010-04-29T18:12:00.000-07:00

Here we are in California!

As you can probably guess the backyard was the selling point for the kids.

Here is a view of J's work in the "field".... it's beautiful!

E helping daddy, and boys being boys...

A warrior by day,

Bubble bear by night!

The younger 2's room
This is our room and master bath.

Here is me and Oliver. He melts my heart...and as promised, the cups that made me giggle. (still do) I call the green floral one "testify" because it's still alive and kickin after all these years. The orange one I call a cup o' sunshine. If anyone should come over needing a cup of cheer, I feel totally prepared! Cups in a thrift shop:79c .....giggles for a lonely friend in a new town: priceless

A New Beginning:part 2

2010-04-10T17:40:00.000-07:00

Ok. We are officially "moved in." I apologize ahead of time for the lack of photos for this post. Our main computer is not accepting our wireless connection so I can't download any new pics for you. I amusing the fun little notebook my dad got me for an early b-day present. 32........I am about to be 32.......sorry I'm back.

SO, summary of the last couple weeks goes something like this: I went to the library yesterday thinking we had until 8 because they are open till 8 on Tuesday's....unfortunately,it was Friday. That was a humbling conversation with the librarian closing the doors promptly at 5. J comes home for a few hours at night then leaves for couple days only to leave the very next morning for another few days. I can hardly remember what day it is. Went out for a sanity check for the first time this morning. Itwas so hard to leave becasue he was only home untill 3. but I'mreading this book for mom's. And we decided if I didn't make myself take one I'd get to the breaking point againwhen I am crying and HAVE to get out. I guess we'll call it "mommy maintenance". I had a great time slowly shopping at the thrift shops. purchased 2 coffee cups older than me by 15 years because they made me laugh(pics to follow soon) Tried on some CA clothes. Only to find out their size 3 is not I repeat not a Tx 3. None he less i learned if a pair of Capri's are hard to get on, the are way harder to get off! Pretty sure you're not supposed to break a sweat trying on clothes. 32.......

When I got home 2 hours later he had the kids down for a nap and we got our home time: it was wonderful. Then we dropped him off and i had to try and not cry! ???? I feel so wimpy. I miss him terribly (he just says that's a good thing).

Anywho. Some of our favorite quotes our our trip to CA was one at a Denny's. We were thinking about fun places we should go and see on the way in CA and Alex shout's excitedly "I know, let's go to the Holy Land!" Without skipping a beat, Eric replies confidently,"No. We can't go there, that's in Florida."

I can n hardly type I'm still laughing that one through.

Since then they have both held 2 snakes, plenty of mice at the local desert pet store down the street. They are saving desperately for their first lizard. We adopted a little kitten they named Oliver. We are all smitten. one meow,and we all come a running. he is such a blessing. the kids are smiling and laughing with a freedom and sincerity I have enjoyed. the house we found is just lovely. tile floors(important for me), carpeted bedrooms(important for J), the bonus room doubles as school room and guest room(important for you) the backyard is divide in the middle with plenty of space for our new gator mobile,(important for #3 and 4) the other side has an in ground pool, "complete with a water slide"( important for all of us!) A large covered patio set up with a misting system. God was so good and gracious to us. We knew j would be gone a lot and we needed to find a home we enjoyed while we were apart. CHECK! Don't even get me started on the kitchen. love it.
#1 has learned how to make coffee for us. He even knows how cream and sugar! I am so spoiled!!!

We did make it to the library on time today, every one got books and a movie, which gives this mom a quiet dinner and a chance to blog. I have had the blues the last 2 days. so getting out today was important to prepare me for another week. I am so grateful to be here. With my loving husband, under the care of a loving Father. We know His great love brought us here, and His great love will keep us here. Every morning I wake up and see this big mountain out my window reminding me God does BIG things. I am ready for Him to work in my heart and home.

We miss and love you all. I pray and hope you know God is in the business of doing Big things. So if you're weary and slow of heart to believe He is there and willing to do something...He is

I'm dreaming of a White Christmas

2010-01-13T13:20:00.000-08:00

SNOW! SNOW! SNOW!

We couldn't ask for better weather for our last Christmas home for a few years. I loved using the fireplace.

Christmas was wonderful! We stayed with Papa Smith. As soon as we got home #4 asked if "we could go back to Papa's tomorrow?"

I can't believe we didn't stop and get pics inside with Papa....but many memories are stored in our hearts. Like Sunday morning we had church at home. We brought our guitars, so we played a few worship songs, read from Luke to follow Christ without apologies. Then we all shared our hearts and prayed together. There is nothing like home fellowship. The kids woke up to Papa's pancakes every morning he had off. We all played a round of pictionary after Christmas dinner with all the cousins. It was so much fun.

Daddy made Snow Ice Cream and it was really good!

At papa Martinez's's's' we played a vicious round of hand and foot, ate more than should be humanly possible, and found some huge ice cycles! A few family members couldn't come, I think that was the only thing keeping this from being a perfect Christmas. We missed all who couldn't make it and love you all!

Double Digits!

2009-11-22T12:06:00.001-08:00

The new tradition in our home was dad's growing up: As soon as the birthday boy/girl gets up, they get their presents accompanied with the Happy Birthday song. I love this one.
And fittingly he opened legos and more legos....

He ate Legos for breakfast!

I love this shot, dad cancelled his morning to put this together :)

GG and Gramps came!

Booger was played....

This birthday boy likes Brownies ala mode. He wanted to make footballs but settled on stars.

2 days old

Yes...yes she did.

2009-10-16T06:36:00.000-07:00

I love it. I didn't let her go as short as she wanted in the back. Next time I will. It was the pony tail they gave me that threw me into shock! She wants it about three inches higher in the back.

We also ate out at WING STOP last night and our oldest gave it the "best chicken place ever!" He even made me take the picture of the paper in the bottom of the basket. It proudly claims:The Wing Experts.

They are: they said 10 minutes and in 10 minutes they brought us a 3 different kind of chicken strips, a huge basket of fresh seasoned fries, and free refills on a BIG root beer. I have to agree. Best chicken place ever!

(They also play sports on three screens.)

Here is one of the pumpkins we got last Monday. If you've seen BOLT the movie, you will understand how funny his pumpkin is. the hamster "Rhino" made this face in his hamster ball when he was ready to fight. And that's what he asked daddy to carve. "Let it begin!"

We went to love creek orchard as a family. No I didn't bring the camera. So I would actually be with the family. Regretting regretting..Everything we did from hay ride, pony rides, singing with two honky-tonk Christians with spoons! Chasing wild turkey around a pond. They all said the same thing.."do you have your camera? Take a pic!" ugh!.....Never-the-less, great time with their dad. We, being high school sweethearts, were amazed at where God has brought us as we walked 4 beautiful kids in hand across the field. For the parents and siblings around for those roller coaster days you can join in with the wonder of it all. Life is still a ride but this time, I don't want to get off! I just read psalm 139 last night and these verses rang true. No matter what we have done, how far we ran, in Christ we are in His favor: surely goodness and mercy shall follow us all our days.

"You both precede and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God! They are innumerable!

Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life. "

Love to you all and have a blessed week!

Let it Begin!

2009-10-14T07:21:00.000-07:00

We had a great time last game day. Our cheeks were sore from smiling! it was hilarious to see the younger kids "play". At the beginning you could hear our little one singing, "evewy body is kung-fu fighting! HOO- HA!" with all the kicks and chops for affect. We were so proud.

The Dragons

The Bluebirds

The Ref said these two girls teams were the most aggressive group of players she had seen all day. Ya, we all took it as a compliment.

The Steelers

The Raiders

I have to confess, I cried at the first game of the day. One of the boys got excited during a play and elbowed a team member right in the eye. Who then cried all the way off the field covering his wounded eye. As a mother I only cared for my son slightly embarrassed. I just smiled and said "it's ok! Keep going!" I could see he felt really bad. I found my heart was strangely outside my chest and in the middle of a football field surrounded by 8 year olds. He went right back into " game mode". I, on the other hand, was a bucket of emotions. I had to laugh at myself. I also knew this is the same love of the Father. I know He hurts for us, and laughs with us. (And quite possibly chuckling at me too.)

School's In!

2009-09-29T11:16:00.000-07:00

1st practice:

He felt led to help the coaches talk to the parents. We all got a chuckle with how comfortable he was taking over things.

Somehow Classical music and this dress inspired her heels and as he put it "I need something handsome for me"

Baking together

Making Slime

Having a closer look at an ant bed.

Nature walk challenges in our neighbor hood: To just look and discover things they were interested in.

This was my favorite part, He would walk a while and suddenly I would hear a desperate voice, "Momma! I need a hand!" He wasn't falling, just nervous about how tall the grass would get. For this to come from my most independent, this was sweet music to my ears.

we searched for any signs of Who's on this clover from a weed!?!

I looked up and had to take a picture of the beautiful Texas sky

Here is a science experiment on Sea creatures: The challenge was to see how long they could hold their hand in ice water with one rubber glove, then we added a layer of Vegetable Shortening (blubber) and timed ourselves again. The time went up from 45 seconds to about 3 minutes. But mostly lasting longer than the other brother!

Off the Grid

2009-08-31T06:37:00.000-07:00

We had a once in a life time opportunity last week. GG blessed us with an all expense paid cruise to....the Bahamas! Naturally we saw God's hand all over it. Something we could not afford in a time we needed it the most and never could have earned it. It was like a glimpse of Heaven. We can't thank the Lord enough or GG. So we decided to take the blessings we received and start putting them to practice in our own lives. Like what you ask? Besides send others on a cruise??? Well. I'll tell you. I felt so free to try so many new things because their was always the option to change my mind with no hassle. Simply generous and truly catered to. They really wanted to know what I personally enjoyed and then ...did it. Basically "my hearts desires"

Our 4 blessings got to hit the town with Gram for a week. Which I heard their hearts desires was also the goal for a whole week. I didn't feel spoiled just treasured. Now if I throw a huge fit when one desire is not met then yes: bad things. Truly Godliness with Contentment is great gain. You could be as unique as you wanted. Which before I would have called that "difficult or time consuming". I think it was that Extra Mile With A Smile. They never made us feel like an imposition, but they would re-assured "that's why we're here: FOR YOU". We really were impressed by that and realized that's been missing in our home. So hopefully our kids will feel the change that has taken place in our hearts. We came home blessed and better. For all who made that possible THANK YOU. You'll never know how much we needed that time away to refresh our love for each other and our kids. To know God has incredible things in the line up not just difficult things. To know we are thought of in such a kind way...you've touched our hearts.

Psalm 103:1-5, “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”

I must explain the towel bunny. Every night when replacing any towels, the room keeper makes fun animals. the first night was an elephant wearing my sunglasses. We laughed. The next night we really forgot about this event. and I walked into a monkey hanging from the ceiling. It had eyes and a long tail. Scared me half to death. I guess because I was eye level I jumped back out of the room screaming. The next night after hearing I got scared, we came in the room to find what we called the "I'm sorry bunny".

The shot of us on the beach was my favorite, because after getting up and down like 4 times trying to avoid random naked hairy men, this was what we got.

You can take the teacher out of the school but you can't take the school out of the teacher. We had fun showing kids and parents how to understand the jelly fish. Where you can safely pick them up, what a sting feels like. Charlotte Mason would be so proud. This was the highlight .... these were taken by J as he swam with sharks. They were about 5-6 ft. I saw the first one with him (a 5 ft. nurse shark) and lasted about 5 more minutes. I headed back to the sail boat, he went back and found 3 lemon sharks. He was happy in the water, I was happy out! And once again, he took a handful of young men and their dad over to the sharks. He has a gift for making you feel safe

A Chuckle and a Chat

2009-08-19T09:53:00.000-07:00

I was just listening to J. Vernon McGee this morning...mostly enjoying the flow of his voice....then he mentioned the most exercise Christians get today is Jumping to conclusions, Running each other down, Side stepping responsibility and Pushing our luck! I didn't feel horrible, in fact I felt inspired to examine and chuckle. I had this ridiculous vision of Christians doing aerobics at the gym sweating to the music while the instructors yells out of breathe..."Ok I want every body to get ready for one more set.....Jump! Side-step, watch those responsibilities ladies! keep those knees high and uncommitted, minds distracted! Now push the person next to you as long as they'll let you. Hold it...10 more! And 9-8-7......"

I know I have a crazy mind, welcome to it. And as for examining myself. I thought "Running each other down" seems to happen more in my thoughts life with the people closest to me. More than not. Kind of like a good diet is a life style and ever challenging to hold. Making sure the thoughts I entertain towards people around me are kind and without criticism, will be something I must keep in check everyday. I appreciated his comment and the thoughts it provoked. He mentioned a little later about Suffering. He confessed he had no intention of standing in the same ball park as the Apostle Paul. He said," I don't intend to and I don't mind that I won't either. If I were next to Paul I would just keep apologizing to Paul the whole time."

Another chuckle and a bit of freedom came my way. I was encouraged to love my family will all I've got and impact the mothers and world around me as God sees fit. Not to worry that I'm not in another country living on soup. But hopefully ready to give an answer to the hope I have. That someone might say, "your delightfully different, why?"

I don't usually have much to say on these blogs, but I had 30 minutes to share what's happening in my heart.

~I love you all

We are Family....

2009-08-13T13:07:00.000-07:00

"Hee-Hee"

I'm still the youngest!

All good things come to an end

2009-08-13T09:38:00.000-07:00

Here is a little taste of a family photo shoot. It's gonna be a good one! A sweet friend here in San Antonio took about two hours out of her life to make us picture perfect. Can't wait to see the rest! http://amyspring.blogspot.com/ :)

We are having the last week of summer. It has been a great one. But for a teacher the last week is spent more on preparing. I LOVE SCHOOL SHOPPPING! Re-organizing the shelves and curriculim was lacking in enthusiasm...but we're in for a fun year.

Pics from the lastest birthday bash and a wedding.

a thought to ponder...

True forgiveness includes not allowing the past to dictate the present.

Where Does The Time Go?

2009-07-31T15:11:00.000-07:00

We are having a great summer break. We are usually in the water somewhere. The last two days we had sprinkles of rain making me even more excited for Fall. It's my absolute favorite time of the year. AND the kids are going to all be playing sports. The little ones chose soccer, the older two: flag-football! I don't know how all the moms do it, but now at least I know why. I don't know who is more exited, me or them. Promise to keep you all posted. But for those out there just looking to see how big they're getting, here's a fresh look at the world around me.

Note-worthy talent....can you balance a chip on your nose? And when is the last time you shook your head so fast you couldn't see straight? Good for the soul. The brains, not so much. But they bring me joy. Love to you all!

Let's Go Rodeo

2009-06-23T10:28:00.000-07:00

So for his 30th Birthday ... he wanted to ride. This one is him. Here's a glimpse of what I see from across the way. He did have the best ride yet. (It was really fun.)

These are the "Liberty Riders"

Here are a couple of other rides:

Summer time!

2009-06-08T13:12:00.001-07:00

Fun was had by all. And all four making the "cut" was a pretty big deal.

Papa M had these two in giggles. If you look close she's got one arm around her little brother to keep him safe.

Of course he found a "nook" to eat a snack in.

No children were hurt in this visit!

Gone Fishin'

2009-04-09T08:45:00.000-07:00

This is what Happens when you watch Where the Red Fern Grows on a warm Sunday afternoon. Adrianna found some clam shells. Ethan found rocks to throw.

There were two buzzards that made quite the show for us. It was definitely a highlight for the kids. They were determined and so comical while we watched and cars passed by.

We had a wonderful time.

We took this shot of Ethan and the sun for dad. It was his favorite part of the movie.

Of course the ladies stopped to smell the flowers. Adrianna was so cute to make sure she never stepped on any of them.

The boys explored the bank, and Ethan threw rock after rock.

7 with Spunk

2009-03-30T10:10:00.000-07:00

We celebrated Alex's 7th birthday and he has grown in more ways than one this last year. Special thanks to Gramma Morgan for making the cake and Daddy for decorating it like a dino.Here he is directing his birthday song for us. We love learning more and more about Alex each passing year. And his natural talent for making people laugh is so fun. I heard this whole parenting phase is over in a blink of an eye. So I hope I don't miss the ride! It was only a few years ago....

A New Season

2009-03-13T13:34:00.000-07:00

She was a vision in pink....

This is the begining of the Little Mommy stage for our only princess. I am sooooooo excited. It is amazing how natural she plays with her baby, now named "Aubrey". Thanks to everyone who came and made her birthday so special! We love you all.

Busted

2009-03-04T14:40:00.000-08:00

Have you ever invited a new family over for dinner and found yourself totally cleaning out the house. I was dusting, moping, vacuuming, bathrooms-the works. Then come to find out they never got the message and were out of town. LOL I felt a tiny bit convicted my family wasn't my motives, but they still ended up with a fresh home. Then our scripture for the week was Do all things cheerfully and whole heatedly as unto the Lord, not unto men. That "not unto men", you can highlight! Sometimes this is

Men: I have a responsibilities, suck it up ...one more time with feeling.

Sometimes it's Men: I did it! will I get any acknowledgement?

When I let the Word of God decide what I do and why, men (people and their response) have nothing to do with it. Which means I get grace for the days there's just nothing to "suck up" and every good day with all my efforts and dust bunnies get written in eternity. My family and friends have no obligation to pat me on the back, just the joy of walking in a home cleaned by a woman who loves Jesus. Or loves the grace of Jesus: depending on what week you catch me ;)

Last weekend we had a wedding in Austin. I had the best time with some of our precious Marine Corp family. The kids had an incredible time with GG. Here are some hats from Magic time machine they all wanted to show off.
So Cute! (that's a hershey's kiss on her head)
This is my husband (left) "fishing" for Cpl. S

Nice, isn't it?

He's with me!

He looked like one of those English guards, I couldn't resist playing around.

T-H-I-N-K

2009-02-25T12:19:00.000-08:00

So this has been quite helpful for our family lately. I read it in a devotional from by Greg Laurie

"Before you speak, THINK. Is what I'm about to say..."

True

Helpful

Inspiring

Necessary

Kind

Now you might say...of course! that's all common sense.

I don't lie. That's one thing I don't do......But how often have I maybe lowered the price I paid for that dress by "just the taxes" so it's not as bad when I tell my hubby.

OR... said "GOOD!' when asked "how are you today?" When the truth is "I am barely hanging on!"

But not just "true" my friend...It must be coupled with "HELPFUL" Lots of things are true, but not always helpful..."you just went over your calorie count for the day!"

I can count....thank you.

Then my biggest struggle...Inspiring. It's one thing to correct my children's behavior or share a struggle I see in my spouse. But it's key to inspire then to go beyond what is the now. To what God wants to be. The difference between dictating people and developing strength and character. One way just insults or criticizes but the other encourages and solidifies that I am "for" them and support them.

Which brings us humbly to Necessary. Why we think it's imperative we are heard on every flaw,I don't know! Lord help us!

It's possible it depends on the person at hand. Is what I'm saying needed for them to grow? Or am I seeking to make life easier just for me? "possible."~ I'm laying down nothing definite. I can tell ou I looked up the definition: being essential, indispensable, or requisite

And Kind....kindness matters. The Word says it's His kindness that leads to repentance. A gentle answer can can turn away wrath. That it can build a safe harbor for the wounded. Nothing troubles me more than to think I might not seem like a sincere, safe place to go when everything in their world is wrong.

Oh what Grace, which covers a multitude of sin. Thank you Lord that it is Your goodness that holds me to you, not mine!

10 Years and Counting

2009-02-18T06:05:00.000-08:00

God has shown to be true, faithful and still willing to perform miracles! We celebrated our 10 year anniversary. We were married and with in a few short months destroyed all that was sacred in our marriage. With pride, selfishness, unforgiving, hurtful words, record of wrongs, expectations, demands, cold shoulders, and hateful thought patterns. Our marital vital signs were basically flat lined! So "what happened?" you ask. Jesus Christ. We went to marriage counseling at our church and they had a sneaky policy. They made us go through the Word of God and look at ourselves. THEN apply what it said to each other. The same power that raised Lazarus from the dead, was doing the same thing 2000 years later. I used to pride myself in how much I "loved" my husband. which somehow led to a dead marriage. But when I read God's definition of love, not proud, doesn't hold a record of wrong, seeks not it's own, patient and kind, covers a multitude of sin, hopes all things, endures all things, never fails. I was broken. His kindness compared to mine, it did lead to repentance. I no longer wanted to fix a marriage, I wanted to know Jesus outside a "Sunday school class". I wanted new life. We have learned God's love is perfect... when we are not. It won't fail... when we do. For this is real love, not that we loved God first but while we yet sinners he sent His son to die for us and take away our sins. We can love each other first because God has shown us to offer forgiveness for wrongs, and grace for the moment, until the next moment. One of my favorite songs from Sonic Flood proclaims:

What can I say?What can I do?

What can I bring to offer You?

There is no gold

No precious pearl

Nothing on earth that compares to You

Lord here I stand with empty hands

I will exalt the one who lifted me

Out of the miry clay to heights of eagles wings

Words cannot express

All I know is this

You've changed me

You've changed me!

I can remember how I used to be

I was so bound but now I'm free

I will exalt the one who lifted me

I've never known a father like You

A love that is strong

Gentle and true

You draw me close

Just like a child

Safe in Your arms

There is no doubt

This is my place

This is my way!

So here we are made new, and walking it out. Day to day. Experiencing the death and the resurrection of Jesus Christ. To die to ourselves for the benefit of others. And doing so by the power of the Holy Spirit. There is no way to love that way out side of God's grace and power. There just isn't. I never cared about anyone other than myself until I was reborn. If you don't have this kind of love in your heart like I thought I did but really didn't. All you have to do is ask for Jesus to be your Lord and Savior with His forgiveness. It will be given. God has no favorites and make no mistake, you were on His heart on that cross. If you have never felt this kind of love by anyone. Know that God does. He showed how much He loved you in His Son. You are loved with a perfect love, it never fails, and it's just waiting to cover every sin. And you too will be changed!

And by this the world will know you are my disciples, when you love one another.

~Jesus, Son of God and Savior offered to all

Grace (undeserved gift) and peace (a state of mutual harmony) to you!

Happy Birthday Super-Jones!

2009-02-18T05:24:00.000-08:00

We had a great time at the birthday party. 3 is the perfect age to watch open presents. There were screams, ripping and jumping. He still goes through all his cards and reads them over and over. Papa Smith came to visit Monday, and was shown ever birthday card! Thank you everyone for coming and sending gifts. The next morning we woke up to Super -Jones. (he put Super man and Indiana Jones together).

Ya, that's our son polishing off the cake with the knife.

you like that?

That's my Super-Jones!

A day with Dad

2008-11-13T09:05:00.000-08:00

Eric playing racket ball: no one seemed to be able to capture his face for any photos. He's just that fast! In fact most shots were a suprise!

Here we have Ethan suited up for flag foot ball.

AKA "Unstopable"

Daddy just grappled a worhty aponent. Mom had to turn away for a couple tough moves or holds...painful that I know. Ethan was equally concerned. Yet only one of us walked away wanting to "do" what daddy does.

Here is a good friend we've known since Hawaii. I used to watch his little boy before we had our first baby. A small Marine Corp family has been born.

We love you all and are looking forward to seeing youl soon!

Happy toddlers make happy moms

2008-10-21T05:24:00.000-07:00

I have just watched a video by Dr. Karp. Called the happiest toddler on the block. Putting the crazy stuff aside, this toddler technique is incredible and one part was so convicting. I checked it out at the library. Everything is good but the part where he says to meet them where they are at in the "emotional jungle" Even if it means you throw a fit on the floor with them. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm not so much. But connecting with them showing you understand they are sad, mad or scared, is the goal. Every time I have used his method of communicating with Ethan; when he shouts or gets upset with the other kids, I intervene and he's calm even if he doesn't get what he wants. He just wants to know he's been heard. Thus the confidence we want all our children to have. He talked about not using distractions to calm your child. Like when they are crying and you say "look at that! you want this? Have a cookie! " Or even try to make them laugh. He says "that will ultimately tell your child I don't really care about your problem or feelings. And doesn't install a healthy way to deal with emotions." OUCH! He does have wisdom. Proverbs says

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength ~Prov.17:22

Singing cheerful songs to a person whose heart is heavy is as bad as stealing some one's jacket in cold weather or rubbing salt in a wound. ~Proverbs 25:20

A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.
~Proverbs 15:13

Laughter can conceal a heavy heart; when the laughter ends, the grief remains.
~Proverbs 14:13

Basically it's not nice to try to change their hearts or moods before you share understanding and concern for their troubles.

There is nothing wrong with trying to give them a different option or cheer them up after you calm them down, but every human needs to know they are really understood and cared about. That's where the true trust and friendship begins. Even with Christ. Knowing He listens even when I'm irrational, completely wrong, or selfish, He's there. To comfort, listen, and correct, redirect, and change my outlook and I can see my own countenance lifted out of despair. He gives three basic steps to communicate with the toddlers, but you will want to watch it, not read it on my email.

Happiest Toddler on the Block

And a child shall lead them

2008-10-10T13:03:00.000-07:00

I was having a pretty intense day. You know when you really never stop praying. I was wiping off the table praying to the Lord for comfort, peace, and His truth to speak to me. Then walks in our daughter. Without hesitation she says, "Mom, did you know that God is in this room? right now?" And onward smiling..."Do you believe He's here?" "He is!" I could have fell over. Who knew her words could be so timely and so encouraging. You never know who might be going through what. And our words can bring healing, light, and a tender truth. I would pose the same question to all reading. Do you know God is right there with you? Do you believe? Fear not, fret not, The "I am" is there. He cares for you and He will carry you.

Our love to you all

Welcome to our Bubble

2008-09-12T18:37:00.000-07:00

These are my favorite photo shoots nowadays. The boys worked out the exact pose for each shot...there are many , many more. And I would show them to you if I knew how to add more pictures. OOO, Look I found text color. Which leads me to the photo up to the right. What can I say, we have a small bubble. We are for "rights to bare arms", and bellies for that matter. Dancing with daddy was actually done to salsa. If giggling was the measure of talent we could go pro!

I have had really encouraging feedback via emails so I thought it time to share a little more inside our private bubble. The hope was to let everyone feel closer, so I consider this a success! We love you all!

Gymnastics

2008-09-12T14:16:00.000-07:00

The trampolines are huge and the boys took to them like fish in water.

Here are the boys working together. Loved it.

Here are some shots from the little tykes gym.

In case anyone wondered how my littlest one was doing. I thought I should give him a little space too. We just sit and watch with a sucker. And of course hydrate.

Clearly I need to learn the in's and out's of a photot page!

Hello All

2008-09-05T11:26:00.001-07:00

We started this blog for our family and friends who long to stay connected with our ever-movin' family. We hope all are blessed when they enter. This was our first week of school. No one got hurt. (including mommy)